(originally published 11/16/15)
We hold onto things because we think that they are serving us. And by things I mean: concepts, ideas, stories, thoughts, beliefs and emotions.
That is the only reason. We think they are serving us.
Emotions are thoughts and thoughts are energy. They are supposed to move through our minds undisturbed. That is the system. But we keep them in place when we innocently try to figure them out or judge them or control them or intervene in some unnecessary way.
I notice I have emotion I want to hang onto quite a bit and wanted to get to the bottom of it because obviously for some reason my mind thinks this is serving me in some way. Somehow keeping me “safe” from something. I’ve gotten a little smarter than that these days so I decided to get really honest with myself I asked myself, “Why am I afraid of just having these thoughts and emotions just move through and move on?”
I realized that I’d be afraid there would be no “me” anymore if I didn’t hold onto any thought or emotion. (I mean really think about that!) Who would I be without my thoughts and emotions staying? I’d have no story, no beliefs without that. I wouldn’t have an identity or even a past. Would the identity and life history of “Jamie Wozny” cease to exist? It’s all a story of a bunch of compiled thoughts any way.
But what a beautiful realization because without “me” I just “am”. A blank slate where anything is possible and I’m not tied to the chains if anything in my past. That’s the space of “being” people talk about. The love we are underneath thought. We don’t need these stories to survive. They just make us think we do. Again, they are only there because they think they are helping us. But the peace comes when we can let them go and realize there is no need to hold tightly onto thoughts, emotions, our stories so that we have a great story, a purpose, a meaning. We won’t cease to exist if we let the thoughts and emotions ride through us. We will actually being to truly exist.
This is the access point to peace regardless of circumstances. I'm fascinated by this topic so I teamed up with incredible DailyOm platform to create a donation based course called, "Peace Regardless of Your Circumstances". (Click on the title to access.) I hope the peace you are looking for dawns on you.
And then we wait some more.
We wait for permission from someone else to tell us that we are finally enough, lovable and worthy.
It's not our fault that we wait.
We have a brain.
That spins in loops.
That has a best guess.
It's a computer of best guesses.
So it throws out it’s best computer guess.
Wait, it says.
Give your power away.
Don’t find it within. Wait.
Get what you need out there in the world, it says.
Manipulate, control, change, fix, them, yourself, the world.
So that you can have.
But that doesn’t feel right.
And it never works.
No amount of the mind’s best guesses bring us to the inner self love we are looking for.
It's a state of being inside of us.
We must find it within.
And then when we do, the outside reflects our inner state.
We have it a bit backwards.
We innocently try to find feelings in the outside world first.
I need them to tell me I'm lovable, enough, worthy first then I’ll know I am, we think.
But think about it.
I bet in your life, no matter how small, people have said you were enough, worthy or lovable, but you pushed it away because you didn't believe it too.
So that didn’t really help in a permeant way.
Because it wasn’t in alignment with the trash in your head.
That was innocently passed down from other’s trash in their heads.
It’s no ones fault.
It's just a whole lot of unconscious, unlovable, unworthy, judgmental thought energies no one has stopped to heal and clear.
But guess what my light of lights.
I see you. I know you. I am you.
You are the brave one that came in to to put a stop to these old energies.
You are the brave one that decided to find your lovable, enoughness and worthiness in a state of being within.
You are the brave one willing to feel the dark to get to the light.
And you might not have a clue how, but you feel a pull in that direction.
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(Originally posted 2/19/14)
Man, did I learn something valuable today. I felt inspired to share with you because it's a beautiful lesson for us all that has the ability to heal the world.
Just like any other night, the crew (2 muts) and I, went for a walk around the neighborhood. I was daydreaming about gluten free, vegan fonuts and walking on the lawn of an apartment complex. My dog peed on the bushes. I continued to walk forward and heard a man shouting behind me. I intuitively knew it was directed at me but decided to keep on keepin' on. Then I heard, "Hey! I'm talking to YOU!" So, I calmly turned around. I didn't really hear what he was saying because he was yelling at me so much that I blurted out semi nicely, "Can you just please be nice to me?" He wasn't. He said something along the lines of, "You shouldn't be on this lawn, let alone letting your dog pee here. I work hard to keep this nice, etc. etc." From my point of view, it wasn't a house so I didn't think it was a big deal. If it was someone's home I wouldn't let my dog pee there, but for some reason my ego thought it was OK for us to travel on the complex's property. As he was yelling, I just kind of blankly stared at him taking the brunt of his anger with nothing earth shattering coming out of my mouth. After his rant was over, I walked onto the cold sidewalk and he stomped back toward his car. He was about to get in when something magical happened...
A quick side note. I am student of "The Course in Miracles." It is a metaphysical text in which you learn to let go of all of your blocks to love and return to it. It's your natural state of being. You work with your Inner Guide (your Intuition, Eternal Guide, Holy Spirit, your Heart, what have you...) to help you see love instead of fear. So back to the magic...
Something took over my entire body, my mind, my voice. This happens when you decide to surrender to God. Something bigger than me, a Divine Force, decided to shower this situation with pure LOVE. A total miracle happened.
I shouted down to his car, "Hey! I understand You!" His whole being changed. The anger he was carrying dissolved. He walked towards me and the heaviness between us was gone. I let down my ego and spoke from a place of understanding, "I don't blame you for being angry at me. You must work really hard to keep this place nice. I was daydreaming and not thinking about where I was walking. Now I know to keep them off of this area. Thank you for letting me know. I totally GET YOU." He replied with a heart felt apology saying he had just lost his dog and he thought my dogs were probably great and he shouldn't have yelled at me. We both left apologizing and smiling and understanding each other. I allowed love in and love healed.
Imagine I had just stayed in my ego. We would have both walked away angry, probably told the story to friends, continued the negative energy spiral and just stashed it away in our minds to rot. But because one of us chose Love, both of us benefited. Your healing will not only heal yourself but those around you.
I walked away with two leashes in hand, smiling. God is amazing. When you can look at your ego head on and know that love is greater, you win. Love always speaks louder. Today and every day intend to see love instead. Pray, ask what it looks like, surrender to it. Be vigilant in choosing the road the less traveled. Let's make it the road we travel more.
(Originally posted 2/16/14)
There was total and complete freedom in your life. Freedom.
Freedom from it all. Nothing to think about. Nothing to ponder over. Contemplation was a choice from now on. You could be like Walden at the pond, contemplating. If you wanted. Settled chest. Breathing muscles, moving muscles. Freedom. Water flowing, warm, up and down and swirling around. Healing the skin. Tickling but softly and soothing. Good. No guilt. Total and complete feeling of acceptance about it all, about every moment. About the past, the present, the future. Every noise, every person. Homeostasis. Existing as one, all the same.
Equal. Stillness. Floating mind inside your head. Free. All free. Sitting softly smiling. No cares. All is well in the world. Repeated so many times before, but now true. Movement. Running, breathing, but feeling so good to breathe so deep and so hard, out of breath. Running. You want to run more and more and more and be free and there is no boundary. No stop. No fence. No gate. You can just keep going if you want. Like a drunken college run. Running for no reason but just to feel like a kid again. You see seashells and sun and crystals in the water. The sand is soft and you handprint in it is easy. Take your time, wallow, relish in it. Be there, time is nothing. It is all. So much space to breath and be and see and feel and let it go and surrender and freedom. Complete space and openness and joy. Clouds expressing their stories as you express yours. You’ve made it. There is a destination. This is it right here. Freedom. Satisfied.
Full, nourished. Free. Hair down. Wild woman. Wild man. Dancing free. Spirit takes over and you sing so loud, off key moving your head and body with the words. Your hands and arms flailing with the words so that you can feel it all. So much feeling flowing through you that as you extend your foot as the song pulses downward and out. Extending out into the Universe. Pure love. Moments, but forever. Free. Delicious freedom. Worth the wait. But here now, funny enough. In your mind you're there now. Beauty. Love. Opening. Healing. Healed. This is it right here. Beaming from cheek to cheek. Wanting to share this with the world. It's possible. It's here. Surfers join us, smiling. We get each other. No need for words.
It’s just felt in the body. Right. Right. Nods. Cheers. Shared kombucha. Enough for everyone. Always enough. Plenty to go around. Always plenty to go around. Freedom. Beauty. Universal Love. Thank you for this moment of grace and plenty and allowing us this worldly human experience that is so heavenly. Your fingers continue to flow. Continuation of good. Waves crash, but gently. You can see your toes. Even if they are long and pink, they are there. They are yours. They belong to you. And you're free with them. Your free toes. Taking you out in to the blue. Standing amidst the water. In the middle. Surrounded by it all. So bright and so light and so free. And peaceful and completely fueled with energy. You could do anything. You will do anything. You're connected. You're free.
(originally posted 2/11/14)
It's 12:03 am. and I've decided to write again. It's been years, but I'm a journalism major among other things. Now, I'd consider myself an inner warrior. I've recently been told by Ms. Almighty Universe that I'm a love spreader, a soulful connector, a healer. So, I'm going to use writing as a way to do so. I'll just let it flow and see where it goes. No specific destination in mind. And it is my hope to connect to you. To spread the love. To lift us both up...
Surrender. Such a wonderful concept. Seems so easy. But what in the world is it? Trust that God's got it all worked out for you. Letting go, relaxing into it all. I'm a big fan and student of "The Course in Miracles." Today I was reading that if we could just remember that we didn't create ourselves, life would be a whole lot easier. We would just follow the voice of our creator within our hearts and be lead to love. After all, we ARE love. Instead, we have this mad idea that we have the control. So we listen to the crazy voices in our heads and take them as the truth.
It is our task and responsibility to do whatever we can do to connect to our heart. Where all the answers lie. Your happiness and the happiness of the world depends on it. How do I do that you say? Well, some healers suggest being aware of your thoughts and just stepping back and seeing them like a movie to lessen their power. Some suggest meditation. Some say do whatever connects you to your soul. Its different for all of us but connect to that inner guide within that makes you feel connected, divine, in the flow. Pray. Ask how. But once you find that voice, that connection to the divine, that state of surrender to your true nature. do whatever you can to stay there. On hard days, don't give up. Keep the faith. Know you aren't alone. We all have our stuff and we are all trying to find our way.
It just breaks my heart to think there are many of us listening to these crazy lies in our heads. These subconscious thoughts were put there by many people over the course of our lives and just filed away as truth. But they are just stinky garbage. Who wants to listen to that? They aren't the real you. Just know that. And hold onto it for dear life. And surrender to the fact that you are beautiful. You are great. You are limitless and free. And find that quite voice inside that validates all of the above. Be ruthless. Gently ruthless my friends. Sending love and a giant wish for connection. Jamie
How to Easily Obtain Love (originally written 11/29/2015)
I’ve been thinking about big things lately. Deep things. That’s kind of normal in this Jamie body. I like to contemplate the soul and existence and why my socks still look dirty after I wash them.
And during one of my ponderings I was thinking about Love and God and Peace. All the same things to me disguised with different letters of the english language. I got to thinking that we make these concepts out to be so illusive. We think they are these big, grand things we spend our whole lives trying to “get” or “achieve” just like everything else. When we see them in that light, they do seem a bit far off and too big for us little ol’ us. “Love” seems too divine, like for monks and stuff. “God” and “Universe” seem so... God! And “peace” seems like a short lived experience for only the lucky ones who must have done something really great in their past life. But, I’m beginning to disagree. The reason we don’t feel these “things” more often is because we view them as difficult to obtain.
I realize now, it’s the other way around. It’s that easy. Love is so simple. Peace is who we are 365 days a year, for our whole lives, underneath thought. It’s our default state. (even if we’ve forgotten because of so much “suffering” thought piled on top, like a lawn under and dozen kids after the candy-showering of a freshly cracked pinnata.
Love is just okayness. It’s simplicity. It’s acceptance. It’s subtle. It’s anything uncomplicated. Peace is the same. And so is God. And the Universe. Gentle, simple, there everyday. It never goes aways. But sometimes we can’t see it if we are looking through the wrong lense. Maybe we just have to begin to see that it’s here everyday. All the time. And it’s not such a big far away thing. And we don’t need anything to change on the outside world to achieve it. It’s already ours. That’s the great illusion. If I could just have that thing I’d feel better. If I could just have cleaner socks, more people would like me.
Open your mind a little today to the energy of love feeling like the energy of a gentle friend in your life instead of a scary monster. Maybe God feels like a sweet pet you adore instead of a big man on a loud speaker who gives you a twix only if you’re “good”. Maybe peace is as attainable as laughter instead of this weird detached state you’ll achieve and never be able to relate to other humanoids again. Let’s not complicate these magnificently simple gifts of ours. They are all around us and they’re ours for the easy taking.
“Those who were seen dancing were thought insane by those who couldn’t hear the music.” Frederich Nietzsche
Sometimes when I teach about the powerful mysteries of the Divine and what’s possible for us as humans on earth, I innocently get in my own way.
I know that when we just speak from love those who are open to hearing it will. No convincing required.
But for one who gets to see healing, miracles and magic on the weekly, sometimes I want to shout from the mountain topics. Everyone…over here…listen up…magic is real. You can heal. You can shift. You can unstick. You can feel these awesome things inside of you that aren’t contingent upon circumstance. It might take time and learning curves, but you can!
It’s true. It sounds weird and far out there when we hear it because when we are young we are taught that things out there make us feel a certain way. And they do sometimes! We aren’t taught that yes, sometimes things can influence us, but we are powerful. We are God. We aren’t victims to out there. We are spirit. We are feelings like peace and safety and love and kindness and it can just dawn us in the most unexpected of places. And when we look within and find it, we can transcend and shift energies outside of us. We become this quote. “Don’t let others pull you into their storm. Pull them into your peace.”
I see this more and more in my work.
You’ve gotta just open your mind and choose to look for it. (The rest follows suit.)
Even if you are angry. Even if you are in despair, you just intend with resolve, “Ok universe, I want to see that peace lives in me, love lives in me, healing is possible.”
What do you want?
I’ll sit with you right now as you stop reading for a moment.
Pray. Intend. Let your heart dance. I’m giving you permission. The little one inside of you knows exactly how to dream like this.
Put it out there.
“Hi God/Quantum Field/Source, It’s me_____. This is what I want ________. Like what I deeply want that I don’t think is possible. (Like so much love or passion or miracles or abundance. Ask for the thing you’ve alway longed for. It’s just you and me and I believe in miracles so you’re safe here. I’ll wait a moment.)
How’d that feel you powerful soul? You are a magical creator. You ask. Then the healing comes. (But don’t time it.) The next bread crumb. Follow the deeper feelings back to your inner spiritual home.
I do this too. I asked for what I want when I’m lost and in doubt, I pray. To an all knowing benevolent force that creates.
And that what happens which is what I wish for you too is that while I’m going about my day I’ll get a little space from my thinking. Where one day it looked real to me and then the next day I can start to magically glimpse it. Inside of my head I’m not collapsed in on it. I have space from it. Like I can see it through a window. This is the start of healing.
Today I was with a client and she said that she was afraid she would be perceived as a joke if she shined in her soul work and I had this little voice inside of me that said, “Oh my I have that too.” There came the space. And I saw that useless thought and I also heard myself talking to her but I was also talking to me at the same time. It’s what I needed to hear too.
My intuitive guidance to her was that I told her to let people think she’s a joke. Then there is no resistance to it. And also to let herself feel the pain of thinking she was a joke. Because when we sit with out feelings, we say hello to them, they move. They are energy with a story and they want to move. They don’t want to hurt you. So we welcome, we say hello, we allow, they move. Then there is space. Space for these insights to rise, space for us to see our thinking like I did.
So today I prayed and I got my answer fast. There was space between me and my thinking and I also got the answer. Weirdly the answer came out of my own mouth and guess what happened. The stuff I want to shout at the top of my lungs. My whole day shifted because I had an inner shift. I saw yet again, I’m not my thinking. I got space, it moved. I didn’t identity with it anymore.
Here’s the magic:
That morning I woke up with my cycle. I was tired with cramps. I didn’t want to do much.
After I received space from thinking, the energy moved and I had the divine answer I needed this natural love and happiness rose to the surface. I was me. Inside of me and you waiting. That’s there always. The energy on top just needs to move. This can happen in many ways but this was the shape it took today. Just a natural healing.
Me deeply open, wanting it, desiring it, learning to feel to move energy and creating space for the healing to happen and aware of what was going on because I've been learning about this natural process for years.
After this occurred I went from tired and cramps to this…
I was silly, making jokes, I could see my partner enjoying my lightness of being. We were laughing. I wanted to make bread. I was inspirited, I got more energy, my craps settled.
One might call this a miracle.
These miracles are everyday ordinary made for everyone occurrences. We grew up in some sort of innocent pessimistic reality. Yea right, that stuff is for kids….
Most of us just fall victim to our reality. We don’t realize we can heal. We don’t realize our inner Divinity can help us, lift us up out of the stuck parts of our mind. This doesn’t mean we won’t still feel and be human, we just won’t continue to suffer. We will get our spirit back. We intend it, then follow the deeper nudges.
So it’s true. It’s real. Energy can move when we look at it, we love it.
New thoughts can enter our minds.
Love can swoop in and do the damn thing when we ask for it to. But we can’t time it. It happens in its own Divine time.
We have this ability to have space from our thinking and see it. When we know that that is a thing that exists we don’t have to search for it. We just happen upon it. And instead of being this random thing that happened because some outside thing made us feel better, we realize what’s actually happening. An inner returning home our deeper, true nature beyond our programmed brain.
Over time we get really clued into the language of the soul. We learn it. Study it. Become in awe of it. I know my humanity but I’ve also gotten really intimate with my Divinity. I hope you find the gift of deeply understanding these two worlds too. It change everything.
I now know what insights feel like, the space feels like, awareness feels like, shifting from within regardless of what the outside looks like and having a massive shift in the energy and trajectory of my day feels like just because I had a healing inside. I mean…cool.
You are a god damn magician.
Im sorry no one told you in school.
But welcome to Ms. Wozny’s class where we begin to remember who we really are beyond what we were told.
This can seem confusing at first because we just haven’t learned it.
But when we do learn, our brain learns to find proof of this new way and over time the miracles roll in.
I love to sit with others in my coaching, my courses, trainings and mediations as they wake up to these universal truths through which they can align in order to get the most out of their purpose on this planet. I’m here if you want to dive deeper with me. I know support is everything.
And my friends, you deserve to live a life of purpose, joy and passion no matter where you came from, who you are or where you are going.
We all do.
Time and time again I come back to the same thing. For years I've wanted to fix. I want to feel differently or have differently than I do. And while that can be a wonderful thing, one needs to meet one exactly where they are in non resistance to the energy they are feeling now. Pure acceptance. Of your experience. Your humanity. What we resists persists.
So, what this looks like for me and for you?
I lay down on my bed. I put my hand on my heart and I ask how I'm feeling. As icky and uncomfortable as it is I offer up love and acceptance. Not literally but I just say hi fear, hi helplessness, hi sick. Hello in there. So we aren't looking away, we are looking toward. Loving. Could I just be with this without needing to change it? I'll ask. This lets the ice melt. This lets the energy move. This creates space for all the feelings we want. If we don't welcome some, we can't welcome others.
I give this little analogy of a house where all the feelings live. Joy and sorrow and pain and anger and happiness and pleasure. But if you want joy you have to go into the house. But anger lives there too. Would you rather hang out on the lawn numb your whole life or would you rather let yourself start to feel the gift of it all?
To me this is a practice.
To learn to move toward and not away.
That's where the space is created for the deeper feelings that make life worth living that you want. It can seem scary to go in but those that have gone before say there's good stuff there for you. I can attest to that. And go slow. Feel 1% out of 100%. Feel just this second of it. You don't need to go back into the past, just welcoming the energy you feel now with no story. Let it be felt, let it move, let it be purified by the light of your being. And then share with me what you find on the other side.
If you want to join me to dive deep into topics like this all about healing and expansion, check out this link with lots of free meditations, podcasts, online courses, and information about how to work with me privately here!
I didn’t know it was here.
I always thought it was there.
I thought I needed to do something to get it.
So does everyone.
It’s a big cosmic joke.
Like a hand reaching out in one of those action movies for the other hand to save its life, desperate to take hold.
Dying over here without air…
But then the whispers of Truth stir in you and say,
It's not in the struggle.
It's not in the reaching.
It’s not in doing.
And your confusion and doubt and cynicism set in.
Your fear of believing because others don’t and will think you are crazy.
As Nietzsche said, “Those who were dancing were thought to be insane by those who couldn't hear the music.”
So where’s the access point to the Love?
Inside of you. Waiting patiently. Wide eyed, blinking, wondering why you are making it so difficult.
It’s in the melting into she screams.
The letting go he hints.
The softening she sings.
And the being he patiently reminds.
And the mind will have a field day with that one.
But what you want is not of the mind.
Please hear me.
Please trust me.
It's not in your brain.
You don’t analyze or understand it.
You know it.
You sense it.
You feel Love.
Tears well up in your eyes because of it.
It's a feeling inside of you.
You are lovable because you are born.
The baby, the dog, the flower deserves love.
You are the same.
God's love is unconditional.
Meaning, without condition.
Read that again.
Meaning with imperfections and sloppy humanity.
Meaning no conditions.
Meaning as you are.
Lovable. As. You. Are.
You have received moments of good and grace your whole life.
You have had secret moments of Divinity and moments of warmth inside.
You are still human and all over the place and wild and you've still got it.
So you must deserve it.
Or you wouldn’t have gotten it.
So you must be lovable.
No matter what your brain tells you, because it's full of stories, not the truth of who your soul is.
You must deserve love.
My dear friend, drop your mind that wants to argue and lean into the truth of what you read.
Let go of the struggle, let go of the suffering,
Let the beauty of the whole planet bubble up inside of you and know that you are already home.
I know life can be tough but I also know life can be filled with so much healing, hope and love. I can't share enough to power of prayer in my life. ⭐️
If I'm ever stuck, I pray. Help me. Show me. Heal this. Send me my path. And the answers show up in miraculous ways. The other day I was fearing rejection and my dad called and we proceeded to have a deep conversation all about Accepting others rejection, respecting it and not avoiding it. 🙃
I was like, wow this is it. My answer.
We think we are alone, there is no help, there is no answer. But that is just not the truth.🥰
After our call, I listened deeply to the subtle pulls of my spirit beyond my mind and "I heard", google Michael Neill and Rejection. So I do and I see a video about him saying that rejection is an unavoidable part of life. You will be rejected if you live on earth.🤢😳💪
Wow. What we resist persists. I can welcome this knowing I'll be ok and the worst thing that can happen to me is a feeling that is temporary and not who I am, just an energy moving through. 🌈
We are always so magically and lovingly guided. Surrender your pain, ask for guidance then follow the little hunches back home. Works like a charm every time. I hope this helps you. If you haven't yet listened to my most recent podcast episode with Den Talks I share a free meditation all about this at the end. 🙏💙
About the Author
Jamie Wozny is a passionate Spiritual Teacher, Reiki Master, Meditation Guide and Journalism Major who writes for all types of people who are curious about the principles of peace and happiness. She holds retreats, classes and workshops and has her own private practice as well. Jamie’s teachings consist of deep conversations about how to move beyond the identification we have with the personal mind, take it less seriously and move into our natural state of well being. Here we can spend time in our natural state of flow. She teaches you how to simplify happiness so you can access this natural state that is your birthright. Her purpose is to help you wake up to your True Nature one article at a time. Read on to align with love. She is excited about helping you find relief, feel alive and radiate joy. Get ready to awaken!