You Are Allowed to Feel Happy When Other's Don't

The other day I heard there is no one way we need to feel about the outside world in any given moment. We can feel any way about any thing.

Know why? 

Because the outside world isn't contingent upon our internal experience. Our internal experience varies and ebbs and flows. So there is no "one way to feel". No appropriate or acceptable way. There is no constant when it comes to feelings and correlations we make about them. 

We say, "this thing makes me feel this way." But... If you look you'll see the very obvious but sometimes hard to see truth in this. We think, we feel, it all happens inside us. We look out there and say, "life is making me feel like this". Yet you are. It's in you. So you can totally be angry or scared and you can totally be happy or at peace too no matter what outside life brings. 

Holy shit that's freeing. 

It's ok to laugh or be peaceful or happy and all the other feelings too in the middle of this. 
We ran into neighbors the other day walking the dog and they were all bummed and others were bummed we walked past too. And thats ok. But if we aren't aware, we blend into the bummed, even if we aren't bummed, to fit in.

To join the bummed club where we've always dreamed of being a shining star. 

In that moment I didn't feel bummed. I felt good and I allowed myself when asked to not have to make myself stay small and say, "ah yeah i'm bummed too."

But no, I'm good. So I said I'm good, even though I was different. Me being good doesn't change others feeling bad. Or warrant unnecessary guilt. If anything, it uplifts the others temporarily feeling bad and gives them hope. 
We need hope. 
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So stay true to where you are, who you are. Welcome the poo feelings and welcome the beauty feelings and let them out to shine. 

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