(Originally Posted 4/1/15)
I know it’s one of the hardest things in the world, when you realize you are doing something that isn’t serving your highest good. You may realize it on your own, if you are an inward seeker like me or someone might gently point it out because they are an outside observer and love you and wish for you to climb over a wall you seem to be creating for yourself. Or you may keep attracting the same “not so fun situations” over and over again until you are hit over the head will the whole “Ok, I guess this thing, or these thoughts aren’t really working for me anymore.”
When you have these realizations you may want to deny them, refuse them, push them away or even keep doing that thing you know is crud because it feels comfortable and doing something different feels off. But if you want to be the best version of yourself, if you want to know who you really are and if you want to feel awesome then it may be in your best interest to take notice. These awarenesses are little gifts from the Universe. Little nudges saying, “Hey, maybe this isn’t working anymore and I know you, and you’re so way cool and I know a better way for you to exist that is filled with love.” Dang, the Universe talks?! Cool!!!
What I do when I have these realizations that something isn’t working for me anymore, is sit with it a minute and say, “Huh, what is this thing all about?” For example, a tendency of mine is to feel bad when I’m in other people’s spaces, like I’m putting them out. I also tend to apologize a lot for things I’m not even supposed to be apologizing for. When I actually saw myself doing these things instead of doing them unconsciously, they didn’t have so much power over me anymore. They were no longer hidden. After noticing this, I decided I was going to use my voice, stand proud in my space and do the opposite of what my mind was telling me to do. What my mind was telling me to do wasn’t true anyway. It was only subconscious patterning I picked up from the past. So, as I choose to be assertive and unapologetic, it feels way funky, but I watch people’s reactions. They are unphased by my “new” behavior. It seems like a way bigger deal to me in my head than the actual reality of it. Being brave enough to do this shows me that it is all in my mind and I can practice being the true, assertive, awesome version of me, no sorrys included. Now, I do say say sorry when I need to! I’m not a total diva.
If you aren’t familiar with the realizations I’m talking about then just put out a little prayer; a little intention. “Universe, show me gently and easily what isn’t working for my highest good anymore and show me what to do to heal it. Or you can even sum it up by saying, “Clear what isn’t working for me anymore gently and easily.” Then you’ll start naturally noticing these things pop up gently and be guided as to what to do to heal them. There are many things you can do to heal the old patterns not serving you anymore. Use the one that feels right for you. I will go into more detail about specific ones in later posts. I love using EFT or Reiki or Sedona method just to name a few. You can also just notice that the pattern is false and old and then it you won’t take it as truth and listen to it anymore. This way, it passes and your innate inner wisdom can tell you what to do next.
Most importantly be gentle with yourself. When you live this type of life it can be easy to see all the things you think are “wrong” with you. But remember that everyone has things they are working though. And you choosing to see them and change them makes you incredibly brave and awesome. Don’t forget that part.
If you'd like to go deeper in 1:1 Transformative Soul Coaching to change your life for the better, find a time on my calendar here for a 20 min chat. Lots of love, J
About the Author
Jamie Wozny is a passionate Spiritual Teacher who writes for souls who are curious about activating the principles of radiance, authenticity and magnificence within their own hearts. Her purpose is to help you awaken to your Soul's True Nature one article at a time.